Potty training, how have I not written about this yet?
I read all the books, took quizzes, read blogs and other people's experiences, I was ready. But more importantly Little Miss was ready. She showed all the readiness signs that I had read about, and plus she has always been ahead of the learning curve, she is bright. Knowing all this, I made a plan. I was prepared and this was going to be easy.
That was 2.5 years ago, before Little Man was even born. I made up my mind from the beginning that I was not going to buy one of those little toilets, (because what mommy needs one more thing to clean) and I was not going to bribe with food treats. (because I had read that using candy or sweets as a reward can set a child on a track for diabetes and obesity and with our family history, I just didn't want to go there) My plan was to use the "cushie tushie" or a potty seat that just sits on top of the regular toilet. In my mind, this was the ideal way to train. We got a wonderful potty book that we would read and we just stayed positive about the whole thing.
Well after a few months of just going at her pace and having little success, LittIe Man decided to join our family, so we relaxed about the potty. Then we moved. We started trying again once we were settled, and were having little successes. It was exciting to see her grow up and be independent. Well, we moved again. Once we were settled back in Rexburg we got going again and got into our routine of just a few successes with a lot of accidents and mess. Soon enough the one year anniversary of our potty journey came and went and I felt like we were still at the starting line, we had made no progress, a whole year wasted.
I decided to add in a sticker chart, because stickers aren't sweets surely that would be fine. Well, stickers lead to short term success, then we needed a better prize. We got princess shoes, dress up clothes, coloring books, if she showed interest I used it as a prize. Well, prizes also lead to short term success. I was completely baffled that this wasn't working. I'd done everything I could, I'd followed the plan. When Grammy had seen my frustration she immediately recommended getting a little potty and putting it in the living room. I shot this down before she could even finish. I did not want to clean one of those stupid toilets! "But that's what worked when I trained you" she told me. Again and again and again. Each time driving my resolve, I couldn't be wrong and her right!
Soon enough along comes our two year anniversary of the start to our journey. By this point Little Man is now showing readiness signs too, and this momma is getting desperate. I had tried everything! Stickers, prizes, panties, 3 day training, her pace, my pace, books, books, books. I had had many friends tell me to use chocolate chips or mini marshmallows, so I caved. Because my friends being right was one thing, I could live with that, but my mother? Of course not. So chocolate chips are her motivation. It was working.
Well, we moved again. We are now in Othello. The kids have their own bathroom, and we started over, but with chocolate chips this time, and things were going ok. Grammy suggested again to get a little potty, but I didn't even think twice. I decided one morning to check out YouTube for ideas, an untapped resource. As I'm watching these videos Little Miss asks about what I'm doing, and I tell her, "I'm talking to other mommies and daddies to find out how they helped their kids to use the toilet." Her response, "well if we just had a little potty for me to use then I could do it." My jaw hit the sidewalk. You have got to be kidding me, this girl spent too much time with Grammy. So I asked, "If we had a little potty you would use it every time you needed to potty?" She adamantly affirmed. So during naptime that same day this momma left dad at home and went to buy a toilet (and some disinfectant wipes).
The kids were awake when I got home and they were so excited to see the new potty. By the end of the night she had had no accidents, and was loving the new potty. After the kids went to bed I broke out in song, "For the first time in forever, I feel like this might work." Hope. I had hope that I might not have to send her to kindergarten in diapers. An amazing feeling, but would it last?
I think we are about a week into it this time, and from what I can tell I think this is it. The stupid little potty has also had the happy side effect of getting Little Man onboard. I think he is on his way to big boy underpants. My hope is that they will both be done with diapers before baby 3 makes it's grand entrance in December. Except for nighttime of course, I've heard that's a whole new adventure.
My take away, it is ok for Grammy to be right, after all she has done this mom-thing before. And it is ok for me to be wrong, though we all know that only happens once in a blue moon. Also, it is ok for plans to change. And last but not least, the stupid little toilet is not that hard to clean out.

She seriously said that to you? Hahahahaha!! Ahh, little lady... from the mouths of babes, am I right?
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